Even if I had been able to stay at home, when my daughter was young, there was hardly no one who didn't work, so, there was no one to play with during the day. Now, however, a lot more women are staying home with the kiddos and I see 4 and 5 of them out for lunch or at the mall with the kids. It is much more like it was when my mom was home with us.
My wife and I both work. I have several "chores" around the house that are mine. While she has hers. I would say that she has more than me. But I try to make up for it by doing other stuff on the weekend. We try to do the 50/50 but it never ends up that way. Especially with a 8 month old.
I don't think it has so much to do with who does what in the house, as it has to do with "modern" couples, or new couples. I know people who have not thought twice about getting divorced. I on the otherhand would never think about it. I am not sure what it would take. Luckily I don't think about it. And just so people don't think I am being judgemental, I do know people that I think had every right to get divorced!
We share our housework too. Since Blair works overnights I swept and mopped our whole downstairs yesterday and I did the dishes while she was sleeping.
sstonetx writes:
Even if I had been able to stay at home, when my daughter was young, there was hardly no one who didn't work, so, there was no one to play with during the day. Now, however, a lot more women are staying home with the kiddos and I see 4 and 5 of them out for lunch or at the mall with the kids. It is much more like it was when my mom was home with us.
My mom stayed home with us, we never went to the mall for lunch, or the mall to play. We played in the yard with the hose in the summer! Mom sure didn't entertain us like they seem to now, and I didn't entertain my kids. If we said we were bored Mom would say "I have something you can do", but you sure didn't want to do what Mom had for you to do!!!
I stayed home with my kids and there were a few moms in the neighborhood who did the same.
A husband that lays himself on the couch and doesn't lift a finger to help his wife cook, clean, do the dishes, clean and iron his clothes...is not a good husband.
A wife that comes home, complains about having to do everything, tells her husband to do it all...ain't a good wife.
If I had it to do all over again, I'd insist on living somehow with my wife not working. All we've done with her paycheck is buy more stuff, nicer cars, bigger house. Our kids and family would be much better off if we'd have just made it work with my paycheck. She'd be much happier today, I know for a fact, career-less.
Not advocating that for everyone, but its just my personal experience. Given the same life, same wife, same job...I wouldn't want her to work if I had to do it again.
Makk9 writes:
A husband that lays himself on the couch and doesn't lift a finger to help his wife cook, clean, do the dishes, clean and iron his clothes...is not a good husband.
A wife that comes home, complains about having to do everything, tells her husband to do it all...ain't a good wife.
If I had it to do all over again, I'd insist on living somehow with my wife not working. All we've done with her paycheck is buy more stuff, nicer cars, bigger house. Our kids and family would be much better off if we'd have just made it work with my paycheck. She'd be much happier today, I know for a fact, career-less.
Not advocating that for everyone, but its just my personal experience. Given the same life, same wife, same job...I wouldn't want her to work if I had to do it again.
Some women prefer to work even if they could stay home. It is a decision that only the two people can make. I have just noticed that there are many more staying home today than in the past generation.
Makk9 writes:
A husband that lays himself on the couch and doesn't lift a finger to help his wife cook, clean, do the dishes, clean and iron his clothes...is not a good husband.
A wife that comes home, complains about having to do everything, tells her husband to do it all...ain't a good wife.
If I had it to do all over again, I'd insist on living somehow with my wife not working. All we've done with her paycheck is buy more stuff, nicer cars, bigger house. Our kids and family would be much better off if we'd have just made it work with my paycheck. She'd be much happier today, I know for a fact, career-less.
Not advocating that for everyone, but its just my personal experience. Given the same life, same wife, same job...I wouldn't want her to work if I had to do it again.
Makk9 writes:
A husband that lays himself on the couch and doesn't lift a finger to help his wife cook, clean, do the dishes, clean and iron his clothes...is not a good husband.
A wife that comes home, complains about having to do everything, tells her husband to do it all...ain't a good wife.
If I had it to do all over again, I'd insist on living somehow with my wife not working. All we've done with her paycheck is buy more stuff, nicer cars, bigger house. Our kids and family would be much better off if we'd have just made it work with my paycheck. She'd be much happier today, I know for a fact, career-less.
Not advocating that for everyone, but its just my personal experience. Given the same life, same wife, same job...I wouldn't want her to work if I had to do it again.
Some women prefer to work even if they could stay home. It is a decision that only the two people can make. I have just noticed that there are many more staying home today than in the past generation.
Quite true, I totally loved my job I had and my oldest was in daycare, he was 6 when I quit work, but we had to decide what was more important, more things or the kids. We sacrificed a lot since it cut our income in half. But it is up to each couple to make that decision. I know women who quit work and never talked to their husbands and it cause more problems. I know men who insisted their wives quit work and it caused more problems.
I don't think people realize how hard of a job a stay at home mom is, especially if you have been in the work place.
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